Act Indifferently To What He Thinks Of You

How To Keep Love Alive Through Indifference

If you want to keep your love alive, one book that I thoroughly recommend you read is Love Tactics  by Tom McKnight and Robert Phillips.

In this book, Tom and Robert suggest that you could try adopting an attitude of indifference towards your man in order to increase his love for you. Here's an extract from Love Tactics about this. 

"A couple we'll call Phil and Justine had been seeing each other for a while, and a romance was beginning to bud. Phil was particularly intrigued by Justine's independent attitudes. One night, however, she lost her appeal. They had been discussing some controversial issue, and Justine boldly stated her opinion. Phil happened to disagree with her and said so, yet the strength of Justine's convictions made her even more attractive to him than before.

His sudden fascination, however, was short-lived. When Justine realised that Phil disagreed with her, she quickly backed down and actually apologised for expressing herself in such a forthright manner. Most damaging of all, though, she admitted her concern to Phil that he might think less of her for having such an opinion.

Can you see the irony? Only a moment before, Phil had actually respected Justine's ability to stand up for what she believed in. But then she became apologetic and fell off the pedestal Phil had just put her on. In other words, she blew it! If only she had continued acting indifferently to what Phil might have thought of her, he would have continued adoring her! And although Phil disagreed with her opinion, he would have still felt respect for her. (And remember, respect is one of the essential elements necessary for falling in love.) But as soon as Justine exhibited a willingness to back down and compromise her independence simply to please him, she lost esteem in his eyes. It became obvious to Phil that she was willing to compromise the integrity of who she was just to please him. His growing infatuation was squelched and a potentially fine relationship went down the drain.

So, in your associations with others, don't let on that you care in the least what they think of you. While deep down it may disturb you to think you're being judged, you will command respect by acting indifferently to it all. The minute poeple realise that you care about what they think of you, they'll judge you more harshly. They'll lose respect. Human nature causes us to be turned off by those who compromise themselves to please us, and drawn to those who appear indifferent.

A popular song from a few years back asked, "Why did you have to be a heartbreaker, when I was being what you want me to be?" The answer is, because you can't have romantic feelings for someone you don't respect, and you can't respect those who are willing to remake themselves to please you! In the beginning, romance thrives on the appearance of an indifferent, carefree attitude two people have towards each other. This is one of those fundamental principles of human behaviour."

So, give it a whirl. Have a go at keeping your love alive through indifference