Are Money Worries Destroying Your Marriage?

Is There Tension In Your Marriage As Financial Problems Increase?

There’s an old saying ‘When bills come through the door, love flies out the window.’ And how true this saying is within the present economic climate.

Financial pressures put a tremendous burden on a marriage and can cause even the most loving of relationships to break down. Making ends meet seems an ever-present load on your mind; it won’t budge, the stress and anxiety seem to prevent any happy, affectionate and romantic thoughts from getting a look-in. So, how, with all this anxiety, stress and tension over money can you keep your relationship buoyant and your marriage good, safe and intact?

Through Love And Commitment.

Constantly remind yourself that the financial pressures are not of your making, neither is your spouse to blame either (unless one or both of you are using the housekeeping allowance to subsidise your smoking, drinking, gambling, or other expensive and destructive habits.)

So don’t get involved in the ‘blame game.’ And this means that you never allow your mind to drop into such a low level of negativity that you are continually finding fault, particularly with your spouse and over minor issues. It’s up to you how you react to situations and, if you don ‘t allow yourself to get irritated, then you can’t get involved in an argument. And remember, this is so easy to do when you’re in a low mood; because small things get blown out of all proportion and you end up arguing over something that has no relevance to the current situation. ‘A storm in a teacup’ in fact. (Another of those old sayings.)

Please, always concentrate on the qualities that you love about your husband and resist, with all your might, any temptation to be downbeat about his attitude and behaviour. If there is something that you’d like him to address, approach him in a calm, understanding way and you’re likely to get a positive response from him. Bear in mind that he’s anxious, stressed and tense about your finances, just like you, and anything that sounds like criticism will be like a red rag to a bull.)

It’s a fact. When you’re tense and anxious, the stupidest things can take on mammoth proportions and seem hugely important. So, unless your spouse is directly responsible for your worrying, financial state of affairs, don’t make things his fault; that will only increase the pressure and demean your love.

Be very aware that if you allow money difficulties to destroy your marriage, it will increase your problems, not solve them. A broken marriage is a huge financial burden on everyone concerned.

Is there tension in your marriage as financial problems increase?