How To Create A Loving, Committed, Lasting Relationship

Creating A Loving, Committed, Lasting Relationship Requires The Committment Of Time

Loving, committed, lasting relationships are priceless; they are truly worth more than their weight in gold. And the biggest , single factor in creating such a relationship is time. Sadly, when a couple marry, spending time together seems to become less and less important.

Time spent at work will, of necessity, be considerable. In addition, out of office hours work committments can also demand a large slice of time - attending conferences, seminars, workshops etc. For a couple with children, there will be other demands, all of which can stretch the twenty four hour day to its limit.

Clearly, work and a family demand a big time committment, which most couples readily give. Why is it, then, that the majority of couples do not readily even consider the importance of committing time to maintaining and enjoying a harmonious and loving relationship?

Why is it that so many married couples do not invest time and effort into their spouse and their relationship? And then wonder why they have drifted apart?

Time is incredibly valuable and time invested in a relationship (on whatever level) is wisely invested. When you spend time with your partner, sharing intimate thoughts and feelings, hopes, dreams and fears, then you become trusted friends - soulmates.

Perhaps you're thinking, as you read this, "We used to spend time together, what happened to change things along the way"?

Before I go any further let me say "Don't beat yourself up over this. It happens. And it's reversible. It's possible for you to undo what went wrong and now make it right. Remember, this isn't going to be an overnight success thing, you need to stick at it. For Ever. So …..

I'm encouraging you now to take a close look at your relationship. How much time do you actually spend with your man? And how can you create more time together?

Find a quiet moment, go for a walk together, have a glass of wine in the garden after work or when the children are in bed (teenagers off to the cinema). Whatever. And say "You know, I'm really enjoying this and I'd like to spend more quality time together. How can we do it."

Use your own words in your own time - and do it and keep on doing it.

If you're just dating, you're probably in the throes of those heady, physical romantic feelings. I urge you to remember that a loving, committed, lasting relationship requires more than physical intimacy. It requires spiritual intimacy. Sex merely expresses physical lust (and a temporary one at that) whilst making love reveals your deep emotions and trust.

Loving, committed, lasting relationships require spending time with the man you love. And that means committing time to your relationship.