June 4, 2008

Make A Nice Day. Stop Your Divorce

Nice days are the beginning. Divorce is the end

It’s raining stair rods today and the sky is so dark and dismal that it seems like the sun has divorced the world; so it’s tempting to say that today is not a very nice day. And that would be silly. Because nice days aren’t solely dependent on the weather - that’s only one element of a happy day.

It’s really up to you to do and say things that make your day nice. Don’t rely on external forces, like the weather. Then, on those days when the sun appears to have petitioned for divorce, you won’t feel that the world is a disappointing place.

However, let’s face it. Even when the sun is shining, there will always be people who feel as if it’s raining in their heart; and there will be thousands of couples heading for the divorce court as a result. They’ll be experiencing a whole range of emotions because they’re breaking up with someone they used to love - maybe still do – and it’s the beginning of the end of their marriage.

The emotions experienced when a marriage ends will be a far cry from the ones experienced during those wonderful, heady days of courtship. Those glorious days when divorce was just a word in a dictionary; something that other people experienced; and you were too ‘joined at the hip’ to believe you could ever consider separating.

Do you remember those days? When you lived and breathed just to be with each other; when the sound of their voice made your heart sing and the future stretched ahead, longingly, happily and forever.

Now, you’re divorcing. It’s goodbye for ever. What an enormous sadness. And whatever happened to the promise to love and support each other through thick and thin? The good times and the bad? The nice days and the not-so-nice?

What’s caused this promise to disappear into thin air?

In today’s busy world, it’s usually because a couple has stopped effectively communicating with each other. Hold on to that word effectively. Maybe this has happened because you both work full time, have family commitments or other demands on your time. Whatever. It’s likely that your busy day depletes your energy so much that there is very little time left over to devote to your marriage.

So stop right now, take a long, hard look at your life and get your priorities right. If you decide that other things take priority over your marriage and family, then this is a very sad, sorry state of affairs and the slippery slope for your marriage. To prevent your relationship reaching the end, and to stop your divorce, act now. Change things.

It’s vital that you get back to effectively communicating with your partner - right away - like you did when you were dating; when you devoted time to each other, talked, listened, understood. Those times when you let your loved one know how much you valued them and were determined to be happy and make every day a nice day.

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